The bathroom is your friend!

  One of the common mistakes so many of us make is not taking a break when we need to. We try to “power through” Which usually only makes things worse. Especially in high stakes situations, continuing an encounter without your composure can lead to mistakes, missteps and mischief. This is why I tell my clients: “When you are losing or have lost your composure GO TO THE BATHROOM” As an in-house lawyer, clients could approach me just about anywhere. In the hallway. The elevator. The lunch line. Over time I realized that the bathroom stall was the ONLY place I could go where no one could engage me in conversation – most of the time at least lol. The toilet was the place where I could take time. To think By myself. No one was outside tapping their foot, eying their watch and waiting for me to emerge. I could cry or shake my fist at heaven At my colleagues Or the powers that be I could breathe. Ground. And center. Re-establish my confidence. Re-connect with my inner strength. Re-build my internal boundaries. I could even develop a plan if needed. That’s why I say that sitting on the toilet is a blessing. So the next time you feel yourself losing it – no pun intended 😉 Take a break. Go to the bathroom…it will serve you well in so many ways!   With...

My Summer Romance

Trust Your Heart It Will Never Steer You Wrong   I hope this finds you enjoying the fullness of summer, the lazy days filled with endless sunshine, family fun and the more relaxed pace that seems to take over even the busiest of lives at this time of year. I’ve been starting and ending my days in the beautiful clear blue water of my pool. I am blessed to be able to walk out my bedroom door and into the pool in the bathing suit god gave me lol. I love it. I’m a water bug at heart. And this summer my daily swims have taken on new meaning. It’s almost like wiping the slate clean twice a day. I dive in and give all my attention to the feeling of gliding easily and effortlessly through the water. I emerge feeling refreshed and renewed.  This practice of centering myself twice a day is helping me avoid getting pulled totally off kilter by everything that’s happening in the world right now. The crazier things get, the more I need the water. It’s become as effective as meditating. How are you staying present in your life these days? It’s not always easy to do, is it? Even without the heartache and trauma of our world right now, it takes constant practice to remain present to your own experience. And that’s what you need to do, if you’re going to create the life that calls to you from the depths of your own heart. I get it that staying present to your own experience can often be painful or even scary. This is especially true when you’re not living in alignment...

News Flash

  Dear Ones: This is a public service announcement: You Are Enough. Exactly as you are right here and right now. There is nothing broken about you. Nothing to fix. That’s just a story we tell ourselves. It helps explain why things don’t always go the way we want. You Belong. Because you’re here. It’s no more complicated than that. Belonging is not about what you do or which group you are part of. We don’t question whether a tree or a hummingbird belongs. We accept their presence as a gift of life. You are a gift of life. So is your presence. Belonging is an inside job. It’s about allowing ourselves to be enough and to take up space. Belonging is a choice  one that we make over and over again. A choice to claim your place in the great circle of life to step into your own sovereignty as the whole and worthy being you are. I recently gave a Sac Soul Talk about my own journey to belonging. Straight from my heart to yours, this is a short, honest conversation about belonging and the dark night of the soul I traveled through following the head injury I sustained in 2011. You can watch it here: The Power of Choice Remembering the truth of who we are is a practice. How do you practice remembering the truth of who you are? Let’s share our ReSources. Leave a comment below....

What Questions are you asking?

Dear one, Asking questions is like switching on our creativity and allowing ourselves to become explorers. It shifts how our brains function. That’s why two of the most powerful words I use are “What if….?” Some people ask that question from the perspective of a victim, not a creative. In that case, it seems to me they are really saying “if only…”These are really different. Which one reflects you today? When we ask “what if?” we are inviting ourselves to IMAGINE something different. The answer doesn’t always come right away or in the way we expect it. So after you ask the question, it’s important to PAY ATTENTION. Sometimes the answer comes in nature, or in a passing comment. Sometimes it comes like a bolt of lighting and suddenly you simply know. If we remain open to ALL that life holds, we’re often surprised by what happens. What questions are you asking today? Here are mine: How does it get any better than this? What else is possible? With love,...

Time to Jump Scared!

I am thrilled – and quaking in my boots lol – to share my latest venture with you.  While I have been trying for weeks to find the right words, after watching the way all the women spoke out during the Golden Globes, I knew it was time! No more excuses. No more allowing fear to stop me. Time to JUMP SCARED! The venture is called EMERGENCE. It’s a 9-month journey of awakening and empowerment for heart-centered women who are ready to unlock the wisdom of their own hearts and begin living the life they long for. If you are in transition – navigating divorce, job loss, empty nest or other major life event – this program will help you find the answers you need. You have them. They are inside your own heart. The key is to learn how to listen and trust your intuition so you can speak your truth. “Speaking your truth is the most powerful tool we have.” Oprah Oprah nailed it during her Golden Globes speech. Speaking our truth is THE most powerful tool we have. But for many of us, especially those who have survived sexual assault and other forms of emotional or physical abuse, it can be impossibly scary to do. Here’s what I know for sure: When we find the courage to listen to the wisdom of our own heart and speak our own truth, EVERYTHING CHANGES. Twenty-five years ago, I was caught in a marriage that was sucking the life out of me. I knew that something had to change. A survivor of multiple sexual assaults starting at age 11,...

Happy Holiday Tips #2

As you likely know by now, my mission is to help us all learn how to listen, speak and act from the wisdom of our own hearts.  Since life constantly reminds me that speaking my truth is often easier said than done, I’ve accepted that this approach is a lifelong PRACTICE.   I don’t know about you, but I’ve found that speaking my truth is often hardest when I am surrounded by family (go figure). And since this is the season for family, I am getting lots of practice.  Most recently I’ve been struggling with how to speak my truth when it’s socially awkward or risky to do so. Don’t get me wrong here. If someone harasses or assaults me, my days of remaining silent are long gone. What I’m talking about here are the lesser “evils” that we all have dealt with at some point.   I suspect many of you can relate. Someone at a family gathering says or does something rude or hurtful. What do we do? Speak up? Remain silent?   Speaking up for ourselves may go against the grain of family expectations. No one wants a kerfuffle. Especially during the holidays.  So the response is often one of tolerance for the sake of peace.  “You know they didn’t mean anything by it. Why don’t you just chill.” When we choose to speak up, though, we are choosing to set a personal boundary. Saying out loud: “Your behavior is not ok with me.” Does that make you quiver in your boots?   Even writing about it is hard for me. Silence was the rule in...

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