One of the common mistakes so many of us make is not taking
a break when we need to.
We try to “power through”
Which usually only makes things worse.
Especially in high stakes situations,
continuing an encounter without your composure
can lead to mistakes, missteps and mischief.
This is why I tell my clients:
“When you are losing or have lost your composure
GO TO THE BATHROOM”
As an in-house lawyer,
clients could approach me just about anywhere.
In the hallway.
The elevator.
The lunch line.
Over time I realized that the bathroom stall
was the ONLY place I could go
where no one could engage me in conversation –
most of the time at least lol.
The toilet was the place
where I could take time.
To think
By myself.
No one was outside tapping their foot,
eying their watch
and waiting for me to emerge.
I could cry or shake my fist at heaven
At my colleagues
Or the powers that be
I could breathe.
Ground.
And center.
Re-establish my confidence.
Re-connect with my inner strength.
Re-build my internal boundaries.
I could even develop
a plan if needed.
That’s why I say that sitting on the toilet is a blessing.
So the next time you feel yourself losing it – no pun intended 😉
Take a break.
Go to the bathroom…it will serve you well in so many ways!
With love,
