Happy Holiday Tips #2

As you likely know by now, my mission is to help us all learn how to listen, speak and act from the wisdom of our own hearts.  Since life constantly reminds me that speaking my truth is often easier said than done, I’ve accepted that this approach is a lifelong PRACTICE.   I don’t know about you, but I’ve found that speaking my truth is often hardest when I am surrounded by family (go figure). And since this is the season for family, I am getting lots of practice.  Most recently I’ve been struggling with how to speak my truth when it’s socially awkward or risky to do so. Don’t get me wrong here. If someone harasses or assaults me, my days of remaining silent are long gone. What I’m talking about here are the lesser “evils” that we all have dealt with at some point.   I suspect many of you can relate. Someone at a family gathering says or does something rude or hurtful. What do we do? Speak up? Remain silent?   Speaking up for ourselves may go against the grain of family expectations. No one wants a kerfuffle. Especially during the holidays.  So the response is often one of tolerance for the sake of peace.  “You know they didn’t mean anything by it. Why don’t you just chill.” When we choose to speak up, though, we are choosing to set a personal boundary. Saying out loud: “Your behavior is not ok with me.” Does that make you quiver in your boots?   Even writing about it is hard for me. Silence was the rule in...

My Little Blue Pill – Guide to Holiday Happiness!

Last night I lost my sleeping pill. Somewhere between the family room and the kitchen, it fell off my tray and disappeared. A tiny little pill. With powerful results. Two very curious kittens. Potentially lethal results. Unlike prior times, I didn’t start beating myself up for not noticing when that little thing went missing. I didn’t curse myself for changing my routine and placing my pills on the tray instead of in my hand. Instead, I got to work to find it. I slowly walked my path a few times, doing my best to “soften” my eyes and really look at where I was walking. This often does the trick when things disappear. Not this time. So I got closer to the ground and did that sweep again. Nada. I was reluctant to bring out the vacuum cleaner – those little pills are valuable. 🙂 I knew it was there. I just couldn’t see it. “Aha!” I thought. “This is why the NCIS agents use those bright flashlights when they’re looking for evidence.” So I got my NCIS-type flashlight, turned out the lights and started to slowly scan the floor. And there it was. My little blue pill on the blue stripe of the rug on the kitchen floor. SCORE! Kitty disaster averted. Pill not wasted. And… what a great metaphor. Turning out the lights allowed me to focus at the end of the light-beam and not get distracted by the rest. This was the gift of my lost pill. I found it when I chose only to focus on what matters. What a great piece of everyday wisdom. Focus on what matters....

Are you breathing?

Are you breathing? It’s actually a serious question. Breathing involves both inhale and exhale. Living life involves receiving and giving. Taking in and releasing. Breathing in and breathing out. For so many of us though, it feels like we forget to exhale. We forget to let things go that no longer serve us – like the stale oxygen we release when we exhale. Nature abhors a vacuum. So if you are seeking something new and different in your life, I invite you to ask yourself : “What no longer serves me that I am ready to exhale? What am I ready to release?” Allow yourself to feel into this. What is weighing you down? Imagine life without it and see if you feel lighter. Maybe what’s weighing you down is clutter (my personal bugaboo right now) or limiting beliefs that you’ve been carrying since childhood. Maybe it’s a project that’s no longer in alignment with who you are or the people you serve. Maybe it’s a relationship that has reached its natural end point. Whatever it is that no longer serves you, let it go. Exhale. Then, inhale and see what happens. Breathing is good....

Cracking the Code of Resistance

Release Resistance EMBRACE WHAT YOU LOVE      Hello Magical Beings, Popping into your inbox to share a bit about why I haven’t been popping into your inbox much at all of late. lol I’ve been lost in the land of RESISTANCE. The personal kind, not the political kind, though there is that too. You know what I’m talking about, right? The kind of resistance where you WANT to do something, you KNOW that doing it feeds your soul and yet….something blocks your way. That’s where I’ve been. And the longer I’ve been here, the greater the imperative has become to “figure it out.” To understand ‘WHY.” My dreams and intentions have been locked in a steel safe and all my energy has been sucked up trying to crack the code.  It’s not that I haven’t been busy. I launched a new offering called Conscious Contracts, which combines my heart-centered approach to business, and my 25+ years experience as a business lawyer. My goal is to support conscious business owners who want their business processes and contracts to reflect their values. (Read more about that here). I’ve been sharing my wisdom in regular Sunday talks at new thought spiritual centers and teaching Intentional Creativity Workshops designed to catalyze personal transformation. And I continue to be in awe of my private coaching clients who are blossoming into the women they’ve always longed to be, right in front of my eyes. (I have a few openings right now so contact me here if you’d like a free LOTUS session to explore whether I can support your unfolding.) But here’s the thing. I haven’t been telling YOU about all this. YOU,...

Curiosity and the Sacred No

Hello Beautiful Being! First of all, I want to welcome all the new people who have recently joined this growing community. Whether you came as a result of MOJO or because Amy Ahlers shared my LOTUS Wisdom ebook with you or because you saw one of my posts on Facebook, it warms my heart to have you here and I’m grateful that you said YES when you did. It has finally stopped raining here in Northern California and I feel myself slowly emerging from the cocoon I retreat to during the quiet dark of winter. As many of you know, after almost two years without another beating heart in my house, I brought two kittens home in late October. Having sisters Ginger and Molly around this winter has been a joy. They make me laugh out loud as they go crazy chasing their own tails (and each others), swatting at their own reflections in the mirror and playing soccer with anything they can find! Most of all, though, I love watching how curious kittens are about everything. From the washing machine to the toilet to the rain falling outside, they check out everything. The other day Molly (the one in the photo) even crawled inside the dishwasher! What if… we got curious the way young children and kittens do? What if… instead of reacting to our feelings, we got curious instead? What if… we followed the “why” thread to the source of our feelings and then RESPONDED to the situation instead of reacting? Here’s an example of what I’m talking about. I hate to disappoint other people. So more often than not,...

You Are Unique

As many of you already know, I became a grandmother for the first time in December when my son’s fiancé gave birth to Allie Michelle. I spent the Christmas holiday cocooned in newborn love and wonder with the three of them in Washington state. It was the best Christmas present ever!   Outside, the world was still spinning, but inside, there was only the baby and this deep sense of gratitude and awe. Gratitude that mom and baby are healthy, that dad has time off of work to enjoy his first-born, that Grandma from California could be there to experience the joy. Gratitude that for the first time in years, my son and I were together without a single fight.    Being in the presence of a newborn is awe-inspiring. Here is this little human being who until recently was safely ensconced in her mama’s womb.     Everything about her is perfect. Tiny fingers with perfectly formed fingernails. Tiny little mouth, eyes, ears, nose. Working heart and lungs and the ability to communicate without words.   It’s a miracle. This perfection. Yes? YES.     So what happens when we “grow up?”   Why don’t we see that perfection every time we look in the mirror or at another human being? What happens to our sense of wonder?     The simple answer is that we forget.      We forget that each of us is a UNIQUE EXPRESSION of the same creative life force that brings us snowflakes and the leaves on an oak tree. That same life force that we see in nature or a newborn...

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